|LOREN G. “SAM” LICKTEIG|
|Obituary Loren G. “Sam” Lickteig passed away on Nov. 14, 2012 of complications from MS and heartbreaking disappointment caused by the Kansas City Chiefs football team. A celebration of life is set for Tuesday, Nov. 20 at 11 a.m. at Coronation of Our Lady Catholic Church……
Great respect to Mr. Lickteig, his family and friends. He was very ill, he loved his team, and he had a great sense of humor. His obituary went viral!
My son, an avid, rabid KC Chief’s fan, and fellow INTJ with a sense of humor to rival his mother’s, appreciated the obit I posted to his FB page. (I am on double-secret probation for the type of material I post there – this one won his stamp of approval.) Twelve hours later the tragic news about the KC Chiefs player, Jovan Belcher and his dramatic suicide at the stadium and went viral. (Belcher also murdered Kasandra Perkins.)
My son sent a distraught text to me informing me of the suicide. I told him I would check into it and text him back. (Put reference tags on me besides “mom”: therapist, crisis intervention, researcher, suicide hotline, epidemiologist, tenacious, INTJ, INTP, CDC, XX chromosomes, FEMA). I included in a text that he might want to take down the obituary of Mr. Lickteig; my son had not yet seen his FB page. Friends and family were flooding posts to this page with news – I could hear the collective cry of anguish as I looked at his actively silent Facebook page. Yes, “suicide is painless” to everyone but the survivors. A new generation was learning a very difficult lesson. So I started to look…
There was little news, but based on the position Belcher played and some info that kept bumping around in my head… from research articles I’d recently read in order to separate out the cause of different types of dementia for a project I was working on… I found this site: Center for the Study of Traumatic Encephalopathy at Boston University. (Go ahead and click on it – it should be an active link.)
What is Chronic Traumatic Encephalopathy?
It is a progressive degenerative disease of the brain found in athletes (and others) with a history of repetitive brain trauma. These can include concussions with or without symptoms (“asymptomatic subconcussive hits”.) Signs and symptoms can include “memory loss, confusion, impaired judgment, impulse control problems, aggression, depression, and, eventually, progressive dementia.”
This link should take you to the press releases if you prefer the non-scientific version, but it also gives access to the entire site.
I relayed what I understood about this information, along with some other possibilities to my son. Mother-to-son. He understood. “Not for public release”, no proof, my best guess based on the information available. We would have to await the autopsy results for more conclusive results.
My son is 19, a college junior. At a very young age he required explanations that involve exquisite detail, logic, and a lot of time. When people would hear me giving complex information to a 3 year old, they would question my parenting skills and often my sanity (permit me an exaggerated eye-roll, please.) All I can say is they never successfully parented a gifted INTJ. (It has its challenges.) At a very young age he indicated the need for the facts. So I gave them. No bullshit – nice. I can speak that language. (Side note – I stopped watching movies because of his constant questioning and need for information during the movie, of which I had no more knowledge than he did – 2 INTJ’s at a theater should probably sit in separate rows.)
The story is unfolding as I read and write…and I started it as a “nod” to both my 1st and 50th follower (and everyone in the middle) on my blog, which happened very recently. Because of 1 and 50, a public health theme was crying out to me…and this one popped out and …
Do you have your obituary written? Would you rather leave your final words to another?
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