Can you tell me more about sarcasm through the MBTI lens? I tend to interpret sarcasm as a defense mechanism, but you might have some more information about it.
Thanks for asking, but I can only answer from my perspective. I welcome input from the perspective of other INTJ’s, and other MBTI types with this “characteristic.”
I agree that in most circumstances sarcasm is a defense mechanism. I think it is very important to consider the individual and situation when sarcasm spurts forth. My daughter uses it to goad a confrontation; when I hear sarcasm from her, I know she is trying to divert attention from the real situation. I call it “offensive sarcasm” but it is a form of a defense mechanism – she just believes she maintains the control. She is not an INTJ. I try to flex my personality to meet her needs since I am the adult, the mentoring figure.
INTJ’s put everything through a “logic filter” including emotion. If you have an emotional situation and subtract the emotion – what is left? That is what we tend to look at. Bluntly put, if it appears irrational or silly (sans emotion) it is likely to strike us as humorous, at best – at worse, we have lost all respect for the situation and person and that opens up the door to full blown sarcasm and/or obscure humorous references that the person may or may not recognize. (Again, I will stress the situation, perspective, and person involved.)
There may be instances where 2 INTJ’s are discussing a subject and it degenerates into sarcasm and obscure references. That is a good indication that they have realized the discussion has gone beyond the point of absurd and they are now making fun of their own personalities. It is unlikely that someone listening into the conversation would find the humor in the discussion, whereas the INTJ’s will continue to reference the conversation in the future, at odd times, with hysterical laughter, adding layer upon layer of absurdity.
And because this INTJ mom is exhausted from days and nights of no sleep, I will end with the promise of examples to help clarify the above – and a quote from one of my many refrigerator magnets:
“Tact is for people who are not witty enough to be sarcastic.”
to be continued….