- INTJ’s welcome input – criticism isn’t taken personally since they are striving to improve the process. They are open to changing their opinion.
- Do not let their aloof demeanor put you off – they are generally so wrapped up in working through ideas and concepts, the appearance of being inapproachable is deceiving.
- Be concise and to the point. Repetition and insignificant details will cause the INTJ to lose interest.
- If an INTJ picks apart your ideas, you have their interest and attention. They are trying to improve the process. It is a compliment, even though it may not feel like one. (An INTJ welcomes this type of input, keep that in mind.)
In a nutshell, don’t hesitate to approach an INTJ if you have a suggestion to improve the process. That is what we want to know, to hear about. If it is a good idea, we will welcome the suggestion. Because we are always looking for a better way to do things and don’t mind input, we gladly give feedback if asked. So if you don’t want an honest opinion, don’t ask an INTJ for one. You won’t get a sugar-coated answer. And forget the rhetorical questions – we’ll answer them for you if you ask them.
About a year ago, a new acquaintance sent me a copy of his proposal for his MBA project, and asked what I thought of it. Silly me, I thought he wanted my opinion, not his ego stroked – so I gave him the benefit of my knowledge from graduate school, years of writing successful proposals, and management. Nope. He wanted to hear that it was great. He is still trying to “one up” me and I want no contact with this person.
Had I no knowledge on the subject, I would have told him that. But he asked for my opinion…
Please keep in mind – an INTJ knows what they know, and they know what they don’t know.
(But imo, what they don’t know, they can generally learn very quickly.)
Links to INTJ articles:
- Working as an INTJ (tjmarshall619.wordpress.com)
- Communicating with an INTJ – Your approach and A Guide to Understanding Their Response. (Yep, Humor.) (annesquared.wordpress.com)
- Portrait of an INTJ (roadundiscovered.wordpress.com)
- Intj (passiondesconocida.wordpress.com)
- Intj (inthependen.wordpress.com)
Categories: INTJ and INTP